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Angry people are
insecure people. Anger becomes a
face-saving device to cover up deficiencies of another sort.
Don't be fooled by the domineering character of an angry person.
Know that during moments of anger there dwells a poor self-image.
Shantidasa |
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Anger
is the most futile emotion one can experience. It is totally
negative
and feeds on one's irrational, vindictive, and punitive nature.
It accomplishes
nothing but a wider rift between persons, a growing dissatisfaction
with self,
and empty feeling where loving understanding ought to be.
Louise
Doud |
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Anger is the wind which
blows out the lamp of the mind.
Robert Ingersoll |
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Often anger is a sign
of engagement with life. People who
are angry are touched deeply by the events of their lives
and feel strongly about them. As an emotion, it has its
limitations and it certainly has very bad press, but my
experience with ill people suggests there is something
healthy about it. Certainly the cancer studies by Levy, Temoshak, and Greer suggest that many people who
recover become angry first. Anger is just a demand for
change, a passionate wish for things to be different. . . .
Anger becomes a problem for people only when
they become wedded to it as a way of life.
Rachel Naomi Remen |
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Frequent
fits of anger produce in the soul a propensity to be angry,
which often ends in a bad temper, bitterness and morosity;
then the mind becomes ulcerated, peevish, and grumbling,
and is wounded by the least occurrence.
Plutarch |
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Anger is an alarm system, signaling the presence of
nothing
more than fear. It tells us we are working at cross-purposes
to our own happiness, fearing the loss of something
more than we enjoy the experience of having it.
Jesse Jennings
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right.
Shantidasa |
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Anger repressed can poison a relationship
as surely as the cruelest words.
Joyce Brothers |
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There is no enemy more vicious than your own anger.
Sathya Sai Baba |
Anger is a form of fear and evidence
of the need of defense.
Fred Van Amburgh |
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Every angry thought makes it a little easier to get
angry the next time, and a little more likely.
Eknath Easwaran |
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Bobby
and I were married in 1954 and by now we know that
anger does not mean "I don't love you" or "I want a
divorce."
It means, "I am wounded and in need of love, and I feel safe
telling you about it because you are my family." Sometimes
our behavior with each other is no different
from the cry of an unattended baby.
Bernie
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Beware of anger. It is the most
difficult to remove
of all the hindrances. But it is the alcohol of the body,
you know, and the devil of it is that it deadens the perceptions.
Margery Allingham |
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Anybody
can become angry-that is easy; but to be angry with
the right person, and to the right degree, and at
the right time, and for the right purpose, and in the right way--
that is not within everybody's power and is not easy.
Aristotle |
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Therapists
want to help us throw out what is unwanted and keep only
what is wanted. But what
is left may not be very much. If
we try
to throw away what we don’t want, we may throw away most of
ourselves.
Instead of acting as if we can dispose of parts of ourselves, we
should learn
the art of transformation. We
can transform our anger, for example,
into something more wholesome, like understanding.
We do not need surgery
to remove our anger. If
we become angry at our anger, we will have two angers
at the same time. We only
have to observe it with love and attention.
If we take care
of our anger this way, without trying to run away from it, it will
transform itself.
This is peacemaking. If
we are peaceful in ourselves, we can make peace
with our anger. We can
deal with depression, anxiety, fear,
or any unpleasant feeling in the same way.
Thich
Nhat Hanh |
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Anger is a powerful emotional energy that
constantly seeks an outlet. The tension
that surrounds anger is sometimes so volatile and unendurable that
catharsis appears
to be the only relief. Accusations and abuse directed at another
become a means
of relieving ourselves of the pain of our own anger. We insist
on being heard, on
making our point, yet in doing so we create an even deeper pain--the
pain of
separation and division. . . . It takes remarkable patience and
compassion to pause
before words of anger are hurled at another. At times this pause
is born of the
wisdom that recognizes that the only point we make in the impulsive
expression
of anger is that we may be a person to fear and avoid.
Christina
Feldman |
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