Anger is the wind which
out the lamp of the mind.
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my favorite game and in my experience, anger and frustration are the
result of you not being authentic somewhere in your life or with
someone in your life. Being fake about anything creates a block inside
of you. Life canít work for you if you donít show up as you.
an essential part of being human. People are taught to deny themselves
anger, and in this, they are actually opening themselves up to hate.
The more you deny yourself the freedom to be angry, the more you will
hate. Let yourself be angry, and hate will disintegrate, and when hate
disintegrates, forgiveness prevails! The more you deny that you are
angry, in attempts to be "holy," the more inhuman you will
become, and the more inhuman you become, the harder it will be to
C. Joybell C.
is the most futile emotion one can experience. It is totally
and feeds on one's irrational, vindictive, and punitive nature.
nothing but a wider rift between persons, a growing dissatisfaction
and empty feeling where loving understanding ought to be.
Angry people are
insecure people. Anger becomes a
face-saving device to cover up deficiencies of another sort. Don't be fooled by the domineering character of an angry person.
Know that during moments of anger there dwells a poor self-image.
Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel
which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.
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fits of anger produce in the soul a propensity to be angry,
which often ends in a bad temper, bitterness and morosity;
then the mind becomes ulcerated, peevish, and grumbling,
and is wounded by the least occurrence.
Often anger is a sign
with life. People who
angry are touched deeply by the events of their lives
strongly about them. As an emotion, it has
it certainly has very bad press,
experience with ill people
suggests there is something
healthy about it. Certainly the
by Levy, Temoshak, and Greer suggest that many
recover become angry first. Anger is just a demand
change, a passionate wish for
things to be
different. . . .
a problem for people
to it as a way of life.
Rachel Naomi Remen
Anger is an alarm system, signaling the presence of
more than fear. It tells us we are working at cross-purposes
to our own happiness, fearing the loss of something
more than we enjoy the experience of having it.
|The angry person is never in the right even when
Anger repressed can poison a relationship
as surely as the cruelest words.
There is no enemy more vicious than your own anger.
Sathya Sai Baba
|Anger is a form of fear and evidence
of the need of defense.
Fred Van Amburgh
Every angry thought makes it a little easier to get
angry the next time, and a little more likely.
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and I were married in 1954 and by now we know that
anger does not mean "I don't love you" or "I want a
It means, "I am wounded and in need of love, and I feel safe
telling you about it because you are my family." Sometimes
our behavior with each other is no different
from the cry of an unattended baby.
Beware of anger. It is the most
difficult to remove
of all the hindrances. But it is the alcohol of the body,
you know, and the devil of it is that it deadens the perceptions.
can become angry--that is easy; but to be angry with
the right person, and to the right degree, and at
the right time, and for the right purpose, and in the right way--
that is not within everybody's power and is not easy.
|Consider how much more
you suffer from your anger and grief,
than from the very things for which you are angry and grieved.
nature is so constituted that if we take absolutely no notice of
anger or abuse, the person indulging in it will soon weary of it and
want to help us throw out what is unwanted and keep only
what is wanted. But what
is left may not be very much. If
to throw away what we donít want, we may throw away most of
Instead of acting as if we can dispose of parts of ourselves, we
the art of transformation. We
can transform our anger, for example,
into something more wholesome, like understanding.
We do not need surgery
to remove our anger. If
we become angry at our anger, we will have two angers
at the same time. We only
have to observe it with love and attention.
of our anger this way, without trying to run away from it, it will
transform itself. This is peacemaking. If
we are peaceful in ourselves, we
can make peace
with our anger. We can
deal with depression, anxiety, fear,
or any unpleasant feeling in the same way.
|Anger is a powerful emotional energy that
constantly seeks an outlet. The tension
that surrounds anger is sometimes so volatile and unendurable that
to be the only relief. Accusations and abuse directed at another
become a means
of relieving ourselves of the pain of our own anger. We insist
on being heard, on
making our point, yet in doing so we create an even deeper pain--the
separation and division. . . . It takes remarkable patience and
compassion to pause
before words of anger are hurled at another. At times this pause
is born of the
wisdom that recognizes that the only point we make in the impulsive
of anger is that we may be a person to fear and avoid.
is nothing wrong with anger. Anger is a beautiful emotion,
as valid and rich as joy or laughter. But you have been taught
repress your anger. Your anger has been condemned. If
is unexpressed, it will slowly poison you. The key is to know
to express your anger. Do not throw it out onto any one.
is responsible for your anger. Simply express your anger.
up a cushion. Go for a run. Express your anger to a tree.
Dance your anger. Enjoy it.
Anger is a
response that can lead to harm if we don't evaluate
what we are upset about. Ask yourself what you are afraid of,
as anger is almost always fear in disguise. If we think
or someone threatens us, we feel fear--fear that we are inadequate,
that our lives are out of control, that things won't go our way.
Then we fight. Find out what you're upset about. We rarely
upset for the reason we think.
comes with anger. It's sometimes called the anger
energy. Do not suppress it: that would hurt you
inside. Do not express
it: this would not only hurt you inside, it would cause ripples
surroundings. What you do is transform it. You somehow use
tremendous energy constructively on a task that needs to be done,
or in a beneficial form of exercise.
I would not look upon anger as something foreign to
me that I
have to fight. . . . I have to deal with my anger with care,
with love, with tenderness, with nonviolence.
ThŪch Nhat Hạnh
if someone hurts you with a weapon? Wait. Think it over.
You probably feel angry. That's normal. But wasn't it the
striking your body that hurt you? Can you be angry at the stick?
Of course not. Should you be angry at the wielder of the stick?
Wouldn't it make more sense to be angry at the hatred in the mind
of the stick wielder? If you think about it, isn't the end of
in the world what you want most of all? Why, then, would you
add to it by giving energy to your anger? After all, it will
its own if left alone, especially if you respond to it with
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|When you're genuinely angry, it
means one of two things: either something
that your essential self needs is absent, or something your essential
tolerate is present. To make the anger go away, you have to
situation. That isn't possible if you don't know what's making
However, pinpointing the source of anger is often more difficult than
the cause of fear and grief. That's because anger is so
volatile, so fraught with
danger. We may be loath to turn it on a person we love, or a job
need, because we equate anger with absolute destruction of the
truth, of course, is that we ruin our relationships (to things or
people) when we
harbor anger without acting on it. No matter how frightening or
anger may seem, acknowledging that you are angry is the first step
peaceful and cooperative connection with the world around you.
Finding Your Own North Star
In living our day-to-day life,
we may have been involved in situations
where tempers flared out of control. Although anger may be
a natural, self-protective reaction in moments of great frustration,
fire with fire" often seems to compound the problem.
Usually a moderate
approach is best, and water, not fire, extinguishes a fire. The
writer of the
book of Proverbs acknowledged this truth when he wrote, "A soft
turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."
Learning the art of
giving "a soft answer" can give you an advantage in moments
of great tension, when emotions tend to take over.
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words and actions cannot serve a useful purpose because they tend
to set up a chain of negative reactions that often result in a
breakdown. Not that it's easy to remain level-headed when we're
accused, or even when we may have made a mistake. But it makes
bad situation worse when we don't. Once anger takes over, common
and reasonableness often fly out the window. Hurt feelings often
and seeds may be planted that sprout into negative consequences that
hard to turn around. Abu'l-Fath al-Busti, a Persian poet, said,
"If you yield to your anger, you only cease to be civil."
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|When you allow
thoughts of anger to exercise sway, they have a
corroding and poisoning effect upon the organism; they pull it
down, and if allowed to continue will eventually tear it to pieces
by externalizing themselves in particular forms of disease.
Ralph Waldo Trine
one obeys anger in his or her life, he or she will reap only pain
and anguish. No one can follow the habit of anger and
make any progress on the spiritual path.
Anger comes to us because we
lost contact with God. When we keep
in constant contact with God, there is no room for us to be angry.
Anger means lack of love.
|It's the people
we love the most who can make us feel the
gladdest. . . and the maddest! Love and anger are such a
puzzle! It's hard for us, as adults, to understand and manage
our angry feelings toward parents, spouses, and children, or
to keep their anger toward us in perspective. It's a different
kind of anger from the kind we may feel toward strangers
because it is so deeply intertwined with caring and attachment.
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