If the other person simply
listens to you without commenting or criticizing, you have the
opportunity to become more aware of the person you are and why
you do the things you do. You begin to develop perspective, or
what Buddhists call "detachment."
Person You Are
Now we come to
the good part. After you've gone through self-disclosure to
self-awareness, you arrive at self-acceptance. You accept
yourself for the person you are, with good points and bad
points, with strengths and weaknesses, and with the normal
frailties of a human being. When you develop the ability to
stand back and look at yourself honestly, and to candidly admit
to others that you may not be perfect but you're all you've got,
you start to enjoy a heightened sense of self-acceptance.
Do an Inventory
of Your Accomplishments
exercise for developing higher levels of self-acceptance
involves doing an inventory of yourself. In doing this
inventory, your job is to accentuate the positive and minimize
the negative. Think of your unique talents and abilities. Think
of your core skills, the things that you do exceptionally well
that account for your success in your profession and in your
personal life right now.
your future possibilities and the fact that your potential is
virtually unlimited. You can do what you want to do and go where
you want to go. You can be the person you want to be. You can
set large and small goals and make plans and move step-by-step,
progressively toward their realization. There are no obstacles
to what you can accomplish except the obstacles that you create
in your mind.
First, sit down
with your spouse, or a good friend, and tell him or her about
something that is troubling you and is still causing you
perspective on your problem by standing back from it and
imagining that it was happening to someone else. What advice
would you give to that person?
continually about the good experiences and accomplishments you
have enjoyed in the past. Remind yourself regularly that you are
a pretty good person and you've done a lot of good things in
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