Taking Charge by Taking Responsibility
Dan Millman

  

While coaching gymnastics at Stanford University, I walked into a workout one day and found Jack, the team captain, lying on the mat, stretching -- grasping one of his legs and pulling it toward his chest.  As I walked by, I saw him grimace and heard him groan, "Oh, God, I hate this -- it hurts so much!"  I didn't know whether he was talking to me, to himself, or complaining to God, but I felt as if I'd wandered into a Mel Brooks movie.  I wanted to ask Jack, "Who's doing it to you?  If it hurts that bad, why don't you let up a little?"  This holds true for your life as well:  If it hurts so much, why don't you let up a little?

The moment we recognize the degree to which our difficulties are self-imposed, we begin to heal them.  We end self-sabotage only by taking responsibility for the choices and actions that created it.  Only when we stop blaming our boss or government or parents or spouse or partner or children or circumstances or fate or God can we change our lives and say with conviction, "I chose where I am now, and I can choose something better."

Of course, not every misadventure, injury, or problem is created by your subconscious owing to low self-worth.

For all we know, certain difficulties or challenges are gifts from God or arranged by our souls in order to test and temper our spirit.  As the old proverb says, "Take it as a blessing or take it as a test; whatever happens, happens for the best."  And as it happens, adversities may sometimes contain their own blessings.

excerpted from Dan Millman's
Everyday Enlightenment
   

   
Subtitled "The Twelve Gateways to Personal Growth," this book is a guide to working towards being the best person you can be.  Spirit is everywhere, in everyone, and if we can allow ourselves to see it and live it, we can reach our full potential in our lives.  The author of Way of the Peaceful Warrior and The life You Were Meant to Live, Millman is a former world-champion athlete and college professor whose focus is on the practical rather than the abstract.

  
   

The gem cannot be polished without friction,
nor people perfected without trials.

Chinese saying

  


 
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