coaching gymnastics at Stanford University, I walked into a
workout one day and found Jack, the team captain, lying on the
mat, stretching -- grasping one of his legs and pulling it toward
his chest. As I walked by, I saw him grimace and heard him
groan, "Oh, God, I hate this -- it hurts so much!"
I didn't know whether he was talking to me, to himself, or
complaining to God, but I felt as if I'd wandered into a Mel
Brooks movie. I wanted to ask Jack, "Who's doing it to
you? If it hurts that bad, why don't you let up a
little?" This holds true for your life as well: If
it hurts so much, why don't you let up a little?
moment we recognize the degree to which our difficulties are self-imposed,
we begin to heal them. We end self-sabotage only by taking
responsibility for the choices and actions that created it.
Only when we stop blaming our boss or government or parents or
spouse or partner or children or circumstances or fate or God can
we change our lives and say with conviction, "I chose where I
am now, and I can choose something better."
course, not every misadventure, injury, or problem is created by
your subconscious owing to low self-worth.
For all we know,
certain difficulties or challenges are gifts from God or arranged
by our souls in order to test and temper our spirit. As the
old proverb says, "Take it as a blessing or take it as a
test; whatever happens, happens for the best." And as
it happens, adversities may sometimes contain their own blessings.
from Dan Millman's
"The Twelve Gateways to Personal Growth," this book is a
guide to working towards being the best person you can be.
Spirit is everywhere, in everyone, and if we can allow ourselves to
see it and live it, we can reach our full potential in our
lives. The author of Way of the Peaceful Warrior and The life
You Were Meant to Live, Millman is a former world-champion athlete
and college professor whose focus is on the practical rather than