understand that during the course of my life I will be required to
make many decisions, such as where I want to live, whom I want to
live with, where I work, how much fun I have, and how I spend my
money and time, including how much time I spend waiting for things
to get better and people to change, and whom I choose to love.
understand that many events that occur will be out of my hands and
that there are inherent dangers and risks in all decisions I
make. Life and people have no obligation whatsoever to live
up to my expectations; I have no obligation to live up to the
expectations of anybody else. Life is a high-risk sport, and
I may become injured along the way.
agree that all the decisions I make are mine and mine alone,
including how I choose to handle the events that are beyond my
control. I hereby forfeit my right to recourse as a victim,
including my rights to blame, complain, and whine or hold someone
else responsible for the path I choose to take. I am
responsible for my participation--or lack of it--in life.
And I take complete responsibility for the outcomes and
consequences of all decisions I make, understanding that
ultimately it is my choice whether I become happy, joyous, and
free or stay miserable and trapped.
people may voluntarily nurture and love me, I and I alone am
responsible for taking care of and loving myself.
Language of Letting Go
Melody Beattie once again distills her compassionate insight
on how to nurture spiritual and emotional health and
recovery. With her attention turned to relationships and all
the joys and challenges they create, the author's
reflections give voice to the thoughts and feelings common
to men and women in recovery.