At that point most of us will resist,
push, or stretch the boundaries in order to regain a
sense of that personal power.
order to make decisions we have to have all of the
information possible available to us so that we know
how to proceed. Sometimes we feel that we do
not have enough information or question our own
ability to make a good decision. When we feel
that a situation is "out of control" it
really means that we feel that we do not have the
power to impact it positively.
exchange daughter and I went back and forth about
her curfew many times. She always pushed the
limits of my control, coming home right at the last
second. Finally one day I decided to
"empower" her. I told her that I was
removing the curfew completely. That I no
longer was going to control her time but that I
expected her to use good judgment. I waited
anxiously to see what would happen.
my amazement, I suddenly saw her more than I ever
had before. Instead of staying out until all hours,
she would show up two hours earlier than the old
curfew with her boyfriend and they would sit and
watch television or talk. She told me that
they used to stay out as long as possible because
they were acutely aware of the time
restrictions. After the restrictions were
removed, she saw our house now as a welcome place to
hang out rather than a prison from which she was 'on
is not something that we can bestow on another
person. It is something that they already have
within them that they will struggle to retain.
Empowerment means that we acknowledge the personal
power each person has to make positive decisions and
to take responsibility for them, a simple exercise
in treating others with dignity and respect.
a Great Day and be good to yourself. You deserve it!
Speaker, Author, Educator,
Human Resources and Training Consultant, Gail Pursell Elliott is
president and founder of Innovations "Training With A Can-Do
Attitude"TM - Promoting Dignity and Respect, No Exceptions,
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