As I have worked with people over the years I have
seen an amazing thing. People often get
frustrated because they aren't achieving
"success." There are lots of
possible reasons for this, but one reason I have
found that sticks out is that many people allow
their definition of "success" to be driven
by someone or something else.
Instead, we ought to be looking at our own, skills,
opportunities, life situations, etc., to determine
what it would mean for us to be a success in our own
mind rather than someone else's.
Thus, the key to "success" is all in the
head -- our head! We develop our own thinking
about what it will mean to become a success.
The frustration comes in when we look at what
someone else thinks is a success and try to attain
it, only to find it elusive.
For one person, being a success may mean to make
$100,000 a year. For another it may be
$250,000. Another may not be concerned with
the yearly income but be more concerned with a net
Still another may not be motivated by money and may
consider himself a success by how many street kids
he gets pointed in the right direction and into a
Now the temptation would be for the person working
with street kids to think they aren't a
"success" because they don't make much
money. The temptation for the person making
$100,000 may be to think they aren't a
"success" until they make $250,000.
And the temptation for the person making $250,000
may very well be to think they aren't a
"success" because they aren't helping
street kids! And 'round and 'round it goes
when we are gauging ourselves by another's measure
So my advice is this: Set your own course, and
stay on course. Don't measure yourself against
any other standard of success. Do what you do
best and the rest will take care of itself.
Here is the truth: Being a success is doing
your best, not being the best.
When we get to that point, we will experience a lot
more joy and a lot less frustration. And that
sounds good to me!
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