women who embark on marriage owe it to themselves, and
to their children who will eventually continue the
institution, to try with all their strength to build and
maintain a serene, loving atmosphere in their
home. We would like to offer these practical
suggestions as to how it may be done.
Before you marry be sure that you know your minds as
well as your hearts are attuned to each other.
There must be at the start a community of beliefs, and
attitudes, and goals. But minimize, rather than
make an issue of, any lack of agreement you may find
Grow along together, as the circumstances of your life
bring new viewpoints and interests. Do not allow
one of you to stand still, while the other marches
Never forget that marriage is not a contest of wills but
an equal partnership in which each must share and share
alike the rewards as well as the sorrows.
Learn the wisdom of talking things over together
frankly. One of the great philosophers said,
"There is no hurt that cannot be cured by quiet
talking." Discuss your problems and
grievances without rancor, and with a will to adjust to
them. But if you do quarrel remember the old
admonition to settle it before you go to sleep.