Mari sings with her preschool class, one little girl is
particularly zestful with the lyrics, stretching her arms out wide
and belting out, "Cause you are SPECIAL, SPECIAL, everyone is
SPECIAL, everyone in his or her own way!" There is a
boy next to her, his clothes are in perfect order, and he appears
to be in deep contemplation of each word. He is
concentrating on the "L" sound as it rolls off his
tongue. Another child is encouraging the sullen girl next to
her to join in the song. Her face beckons to the other
child, "Come on, this is fun! You will feel so happy
when you sing this song!"
Each child is keenly alive to his or her gifts. Even while
singing a simple song, they translate their gifts into how they
interact with others. The first little girl is an
entertainer, the little "L" speaking boy is an
administrator, carefully crossing the t's and dotting the i's.
The child encouraging the sullen girl is an encourager. And the
sullen one? She is being highly emotive at the moment,
perhaps communicating for another little one who is not as able to
"How do I know what my gifts are?"
"What do you mean? I have special gifts and abilities?
I'm pretty ordinary."
"Why am I stuck with this talent? I wish I had his
talent--it's much more appealing than mine."
Teaching on the topic of giftedness, I have heard it all.
People either are unaware that they have gifts, feel unworthy of
using their uniqueness in a real live way, or wish they had
received different gifts or abilities from the beginning.
between childhood and adulthood we often forget or misplace
our gifts. Instead of expressing ourselves as we are, we
express ourselves in shoulds or oughts or what other people
believe is true about us.
To cross the bridge to living more purposefully, and being
mindfully aware of our personal gifts, a simple process may
enlighten you further.
TIME: Take time in quiet to ponder and reflect on your gifts.
This may be a time to pull out your journal and do some free
writing. Ask yourself the following questions:
*When did I
feel the most alive to life? What was I doing? Whom was
I with? Where was I?
am I the most connected with community? How would the people
I interact with describe me? What do they compliment me for,
say I do well?
*What does Joy mean to me? How do I reflect joy back to
others? What am I actively doing when I am in a joyful
Tune in to
Your Intuition, the Voice of God, or Your Creative Force.
Whatever it is that you "tap into" for higher guidance,
use it to dig more deeply into the above questions.
Often for me, my conscious mind tells me one thing, but when I
carefully tune into my subconscious or intuitive side I make some
amazing discoveries. God delivers me the greatest messages
when I am not so busy talking myself!
Look carefully at your life, and make "tweaks" or
adjustments so you can more fully exercise or express your
One of the greatest changes I made recently is hiring a virtual
assistant. She is gifted in administration, one of my
weakest areas! So, I have adjusted my life and allowed her
to express her gifts so I can fully express mine.
How can you do something similar? Look back to step one,
read over and carefully review joy areas in your life.
These should point to the changes that would lead you to living
The steps are simple. Time, Tune and Tweak. All it
takes is for you to say "YES!" and take action.
Let me know how it goes for you. My delight is for you as
you continue to live on purpose.
Scott is a Personal Success Coach who left her career as a
government bureaucrat and built a successful business in less than
six months. She now combines mothering 4 children with inspiring
people worldwide with her books, ezine, teaching and personal
coaching. Her website, unfortunately, is no longer