student in one of my classes once made the claim that life
was all about just sitting in one place and waiting for
the world to come to you, because if you sat in one place
long enough, everything would come to you. I tend to
think that if I decided to sit in one place for a long
time, everything will pass me by, but it won't necessarily
come to me. After all, what motivation would people
and things have to come to me if I weren't acting at all,
and just sitting there?
it gets frustrating when we do go to people and they don't
respond well. But whether their response (rejection,
disinterest) is a reflection of us or of them, it's
important not to get discouraged when such things
happen. We can choose to look at it for what it
is: a message from life that this connection isn't
supposed to be right now.
the other hand, we often find that going to others is a
tremendously rewarding experience. We see other
people respond quite happily to our interest and our
caring, for we've put something very pleasant into their
lives. When we go to someone, we show interest in
who they are and how they're doing, and many people are
yearning for someone to show such interest.
and waiting for the world to come to you will result in a
pretty safe and tedious world. After all, we face no
rejection and no hurt. But we also create no reasons
why anyone would want to come to us. And yes, we are
all inherently valuable human beings, but we never allow
others to see and experience our value if we do nothing
but sit and wait. And we also never recognize the
needs of others who may need someone to come their way
every now and then.