it's difficult to insist on having time to oneself.
We get to thinking that we're letting other people down if
we're not with them, that they need us to be a constant
part of their lives if they're to thrive. And so we
don't take time for ourselves, and we don't renew
ourselves spiritually and emotionally. This means
that we're always dealing with others from a rather
diminished state, never dealing with them from the
strongest state we're able to reach.
to ourselves and for ourselves is the greatest gift that
we can give--to ourselves and to the people we love.
It doesn't have to be a two-week vacation in Europe or in
a monastery; it just as well could be an hour each morning
or afternoon during which we don't deal with anyone else's
problems and just focus on finding a place of peace inside
from which we can keep on dealing with our worlds.
It can take the form of a walk in the forest or a nap in
the study, but it really does need to be by and for
ourselves. It's not a time to deal with other
people's problems, and it's not a time to seek out passive
entertainment. It's simply a time to be alone and
allow our batteries to recharge.
is great healing available in quiet and solitude. We
can find in that healing ways to mend our thoughts and
emotions, ways to help ourselves to reach places from
which we function more effectively and from which we live
our lives much more fully. But getting in touch with
those places inside ourselves takes effort, and that
effort starts with the simple determination to spend time
alone, to give ourselves a chance to grow and heal.