question of who we are to ourselves versus who we are to
other people is an important one to consider. We've
all known the people who think themselves to be kind and
considerate and well-loved, never suspecting that most
other people can't stand them or the things they do.
We've seen and met the people who quite hypocritically say
that they're one thing and act like something else.
It's not pleasant for us to witness this, and it does not
lead to a pleasant life for people who act this way.
we're going to be true, it's important that we're first of
all true to ourselves, and then true to the other people
in our lives. In order for both of these conditions
to be met, there must be congruence between the face that
we put on for ourselves and that we put on for
others. We must make sure that we're not lying, that
we're being truthful both to ourselves and to other
people. Otherwise, we will reach a point at which
we're not quite sure just which person we are truly, for
the faces we've presented are not of the same people.
who are you? Are you the person who talks to a young
child, the person who makes jokes with co-workers, the
person who talks tenderly to his or her spouse, or the
person who's frustrated in line at the bank? If we
take care to be honest at all times, then each of these
people will be consistently you. If we insist on
playing roles and allowing our actions and thoughts to
change depending on which people we're with, then it will
be very hard to be sure of just which one is the true us.
can confuse ourselves, or we can be true and never doubt
just who or what we are. And doesn't it sound better
to live without confusion simply because we've chosen to
be honest always, to everyone?