is an amazing power. When we trust ourselves or
others, we add a certain power to whatever we're doing, a
certain positive energy that allows us to approach our
tasks with confidence and enthusiasm. And when we
approach things this way, we can accomplish a great deal
in very effective ways. And when our accomplishments
start to reflect our trust in ourselves, then other things
in life start to fall into place, also, as our levels of
positive energy grow and expand in our lives.
we trust ourselves, it's easier to be ourselves--to act in
ways that are authentic and unique to us. When our
confidence levels are high, there's no need to put on airs
or put on any kind of show, for we can make things happen
simply with a little bit of positive effort. And
once they start happening, we learn very quickly that much
of what might have been holding us back was our tendency
to try to act as we thought others wanted us to act, or in
ways that we thought would impress others. It's no
wonder things don't fall into place when we're not even
being and trusting ourselves!
you realize just who you are and just what an authentic
action is for you--an action that truly reflects your
thoughts and beliefs and desires--then it's easy to act
like yourself and to start trusting yourself and you
motives and your actions. We start to see more
synchronicity in our lives as life begins to respond to
our trust and our love and our authenticity. We also
start to find fulfillment in activities that reflect our
authentic selves, activities that are true to who we
are. If I go to the opera just to impress others,
that's one thing, but if I find an activity that I truly
enjoy, that's another.
work, in relationships, in school, at meetings--how often
do we slip into roles rather than allowing ourselves to be
ourselves, and trusting that person?
can fall into place easily in our lives, but we have to
let them do so. Acting from a place that's not true
to who we are is a barrier, not a catalyst, and it doesn't
allow us to trust ourselves. After all, it's hard to
trust ourselves when we're doing things we don't really
feel comfortable doing.
What are some barriers to trusting yourself? How
did those barriers come to be?
When have you noticed that things fall into place
easily in your life? What factors have been in place
at those times?
When are you more likely to allow yourself to be
yourself? How often do you search out those
Nasreddin brought a bow and arrows with him
to the country fair, and his students all came to see their
teacher compete in the archery contest. Like all other
contestants, Nasreddin was given three shots at the
target. Before he took his first shot, Nasreddin put
on the kind of hat a soldier wears and stood up very
straight. Then he pulled the bow back hard and
fired. Nasreddin missed the target completely, and the
crowd laughed mightily at him.
Nasreddin picked up the bow once more and drew it
back. This time he used much less strength, and
although the arrow flew straight at the target, it fell far
Nasreddin had only his third shot left. He simply
turned to face the target and fired the third arrow.
It hit dead center, and the whole crowd went crazy!
Everyone wanted to know how he made the last shot after not
even having come close with the first two.
"I'll tell you," Nasreddin said.
"For the first shot, I was imagining I was a soldier
and a terrible enemy faced me. Fear caused the arrow
to fly high over the target. When I took the second
shot, I was thinking like a man who had missed his first one
and was so nervous he could not concentrate. He was
weak with worry, and the shot was weak, too."
Nasreddin paused. Finally a courageous soul spoke
up. "And what about the third one? Who
fired that arrow?"
Nasreddin. "That was
traditional Sufi story