that relationship that you thought would last forever has
come to an end. That super-comfortable pair of shoes
is now in the trash. Your favorite coffee mug fell
to the floor last week and broke into a hundred
pieces. You thought you'd be doing the same job for
the next thirty years, but the company just went
bankrupt. Things happen, things pass, and time and
life move on. These are facts, yet somehow these
completely objective facts of life make us feel pain.
lasts forever--we learn that at a very early age.
Somehow, though, when we become attached to things we
start to believe that those things will be around
forever. And when they end up not being so, it's our
attachment that makes us feel hurt--we've fooled ourselves
into thinking that we wouldn't lose something, yet that
very thing is now gone.
much of our hurt in life comes because of our own
perspective--because of the way that we see certain things
and the ways that we make ourselves believe about
them. If I know that one day I'll lose something I
may feel the hurt of loss, but I won't suffer the pain of
a broken attachment. It simply takes a more
practical and realistic view of the world--things come to
an end, no matter how much we like or love them, and it's
important that we allow those things to end. And
then we can move on with our own lives.
nothing wrong with mourning a loss. But the pain is
magnified immensely when we've allowed ourselves to
believe that a loss will not happen--nothing is permanent,
not even our own stay on this planet, and we're doing
ourselves a great disservice when we fool ourselves that
something will be around forever.