June 7

Today's quotation:

Remember not only to say the right thing
in the right place, but far more difficult still,
to leave unsaid the wrong thing
at the tempting moment.

Benjamin Franklin

Today's Meditation:

I don't think there are too many more important thoughts than this one as far as maintaining healthy relationships is concerned.  There are so many things that, had they been left unsaid, might have prevented many, many very difficult problems.  I know that in my life there are many words that I wished almost immediately that I hadn't said, and many that I regretted after spending some time considering them later.  I've seen reactions to my words that I never would have expected--often in very negative ways.

Sometimes we say things for reasons that aren't exactly noble.  We may want to make someone look bad or feel bad, or we may want to show someone up or expose their ignorance or hypocrisy.  We may simply want to impress others with our wit or insight.  None of these reasons for speaking, though, really have noble or positive motives behind them.

On the other hand, some of the times that I've felt the best about myself have been those times when I've stayed quiet, when I haven't said something that's come to mind.  I've let someone else continue talking without correction or interruption, and the results have been amazingly positive.  My input not only was not necessary, but it might have been somewhat destructive if I had put in my two cents' worth.

While we almost always speak with the best of intentions, we have to keep in mind that intentions don't always bring about the desired results.  And if we keep that in mind, we may be able to stay silent and be much more helpful to situations in doing so.

Questions to consider:

When might we be most helpful by not saying anything?

Why is it often "tempting" to say something to someone?

Why is it more difficult to refrain from saying the wrong thing than it is to say the right thing?

For further thought:

The quieter you become, the more you can hear.

Baba Ram Dass

  

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