perfect. That's a simple fact. Why, then, do
we spend so much time and effort searching for that
"perfect" person? Even if we were to find
such a person, wouldn't our love then be conditional upon
the fact that the person stay perfect in all ways?
And we all know that conditional love isn't really love at
all, but a projection of our desires.
uses a very important word in this passage:
learn. We need to learn to see other people for
exactly what they are--human beings on this planet going
through most of the same trials and tribulations that we
encounter, and dealing with them in the ways that they see
most appropriate. When we learn to see people this
way, we can feel much more compassion and love for them,
for they no longer need to live up to our expectations in
order for us to love them.
is a tricky business if we see it as something that when
we give it, we should get something back. Or if we
feel that people need to deserve our love somehow.
When we're able to get past these immature ideas, though,
we come to learn that love is something that we give
unconditionally, and when we learn that, then and only
then can we truly love other human beings. It
becomes easier to do so, too, and the more love we give,
the more we find that we have in our reserves for the
other people that we meet.