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June 2
  
  
Some people like me.
Some people don't.
You can never get everyone
to like you, so why knock
yourself out trying?

Claudette Colbert

  

Today's Meditation:

This is a lesson that I had to learn very early in my teaching career.  It's very easy to want to have all of your students like you, but it just isn't going to happen.  There will be personality conflicts, there will be differences of opinion, there will be the inability to get through to some of the students.  But that's okay.  As long as I respect them and recognize the fact that they don't have to like me to learn the material, then things are fine.

I think the most important part of Claudette's words are her last five words.  Why knock ourselves out trying to have something happen that isn't going to happen?  When I approach life and other people with this attitude, it's much easier for me to be myself, instead of trying to be someone whom I think others will like.  If I don't have to prove anything to anyone, and if I don't have to impress anyone, I'm free to be the authentic me, and I sincerely believe that that is one of our most important goals while we're here on this planet.

I like it when people like me.  I like it when my students like me.  But some of them won't, and that will often be a result of their previous experiences in life with people whom they associate with me, not necessarily something that has to do with me specifically.  But I don't want to do things to get people to like me--I hope to be kind and compassionate and loving, but only because those are the qualities I want to show, not because I want others to see those qualities and like me as a result of them.  And some people, depending on their backgrounds, may dislike me or distrust me because of those qualities.  We'll never hit 100%, so instead of knocking ourselves out trying to make others like us, how about knocking ourselves out to try to become the people we truly desire to be, and let the likes and dislikes fall where they may?

Questions to consider:

Why do many of us get so focused on getting others to like us?

How much conscious effort do you give to becoming the person you wish to be? 

What are some reasons that others may not like us that have nothing to do with us personally?

For further thought:

I'm not concerned with your liking or disliking me.
All I ask is that you respect me as a human being.

Jackie Robinson

   

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