I've always been very fortunate in at least one
way: I've never seen bad things happening without
also seeing possible good things that can result from the
bad. Sometimes we have to walk through a blazing
inferno of a desert before we can reach the cool waters of
a lake. Sometimes we have to be rejected by someone
we think we love before we can meet someone else who is
much more suited to us. Sometimes we have to be laid
off from a job before we're able to find another one
that's much better for us all the way around.
That's not to diminish the importance or the effects of
what has gone bad. We can have things go very wrong
without reacting to them, without going through the many
feelings that will result from terrible things happening
in our lives. A breakup or a rejection is brutal,
and it will bring us down. A layoff is terribly
difficult to deal with on many levels. But this is
where hope and faith come in--when we realize that just
because the night looks very dark at the moment, we don't
have to cower in the darkness; rather, we can follow the
lead of our hope and know that the light will return, and
work to make sure that we've done something about our
situation before the morning arrives.
I've seen many relationships start to improve only after
the persons involved hit terrible lows. I've known
alcoholics and drug addicts who have started the road to
recovery only after their lives have taken terrible
turns. Many people reach positive financial
situations only after they've lost everything.
Somehow, things going wrong often act to motivate us to
change, to work towards improving. But we do have to
have faith in life so that we can hold on to the hope that
things actually can get better.