"I believe" can be two of the most dangerous
words of our lives. They're two words that can keep
us from having an open mind, that can keep us from
learning the truth about certain things, that can keep us
from listening carefully to people who just may have very
important messages to share with us. I always used
to believe, for example, that people should act in certain
ways in certain situations. As a result of that
belief, I had an artificial set of expectations when
certain situations arose, and I pretty much always set
myself up for disappointment and frustration because of my
beliefs. Now that I've changed those beliefs, I feel
much less frustration in my life. It's nice.
One of the main problems with beliefs is that they're so
rarely authentically ours. We borrow our beliefs
from others, for the most part, and we react to many, many
things based basically on what other people believe.
We also assign limitations to ourselves based on beliefs
that we've learned from others about ourselves--we have
this talent, we don't have that one. We're good at
this, but not at that. I deserve these, but I
certainly don't deserve those. . . .
The limits in your life are almost all self-defined.
And for the most part, your beliefs are determining those
limits. Time after time we hear of the importance of
changing our beliefs in order to change our lives for the
better, yet time after time we ignore the message because
we really are attached emotionally to those beliefs.
Recognize that your beliefs are like the
weather--constantly subject to change--and you'll find
that you're able to empower yourself in such a way that
you'll open up whole worlds of possibility that simply
weren't there before. Your potential is almost unlimited;
isn't it a shame that you believe so deeply and so fondly