What an incredibly simple perspective--but certainly
not simplistic. Life is the way it is. If more
of us could deal with that reality, then I believe that we
would find that life isn't nearly as difficult as we
sometimes think it is. If we could see things this
way, then we wouldn't spend nearly as much time fretting
or stressing ourselves out because life isn't becoming
what we think it should be or what we've expected it to
If we think of what life's "supposed to be,"
then we're thinking of being able to control
life--controlling the weather, the actions and reactions
of other people, the performance of the business where we
work and all the other companies with which ours does
business so that ours remains stable, and so many other
things that it's inconceivable even to list them.
Yet how many times do we hear people say things like,
"that's now how this was supposed to end up"?
I see myself as having two main duties on this
planet: dealing with life and the changes it throws
my way, and helping others to learn to do the same thing
in their own ways. When life throws me a curveball
and upsets things that I've put into motion--like when I
got laid off three years ago after having just bought a
house--it's up to me to make sure that I don't lose my
peace of mind, that I still try to enjoy life while
searching for the changes to make that will help the most,
and to try to recognize and embrace the new opportunities
that come my ways when other doors are closed to me.
And when others are going through similar things, I know
that the best that I can do is listen to them talk, to
allow them to work their ways through their own necessary
changes, without telling them what they ought to do or
have to do. Their job is to cope with their lives,
and while I might give a piece of advice or two, the
bottom line is that their lives are different than mine,
and what works for me often won't work for someone
else. But if I can teach them that the way they cope
is the most important factor in whether or not they remain
or become happy with life, then I can help them greatly.