Boy, do I have a lot of problems in my life. I
don't ask for any of them, and I don't try to make them
happen, but they do come up, sometimes through my own
doing. Actually, often through my own doing.
I'll make what I see as a small mistake, and all of a
sudden I have to deal with repercussions of that
mistake. Or something large will happen, like being
laid off a few years back, and then I'll have to deal with
tons of problems caused by that--and those problems don't
seem to want to go away.
While I seem to be good at creating problems in my life, I
don't seem to be very good at listening to the messages
that those problems bring, and learning the lessons that
are in the messages. If I were good at this, then I
don't think that the same problems would continue to
emerge, yet somehow they do. But how can I recognize
the messages, understand them, and apply the lessons
learned to my life? It seems to be a very difficult
task, and one that nobody ever has taught me how to do.
I suppose the first thing to do is to look at the problem
itself and figure out its dynamics--where it comes from,
what it involves, and how I contributed to it, how others
have contributed to it. Then
it's important for me to figure out just how my
contribution to it came about--did I act out of
negligence, ignorance, silliness, uncaring? And what
have I learned about other people through their
contributions to the problem, or their involvement or lack
of involvement in it?
Many messages in our lives go unrecognized. That's a
reflection of our lack of awareness, our busyness, the
distractions that make up our lives. We can make our
lives much more positive, though, if we learn to recognize
the messages and learn the lessons that they bring us. . .
and that does take effort.