While I'd like to disagree with Edward here, I really
can't. My own experience tells me that over the
years I've had a great struggle trying to be true to
myself and my feelings and my wants and needs and
desires. I've so often found other people's ideas
creeping in and trying to become my own that it has
required constant vigilance on my part to make sure that
the thoughts that I'm thinking actually are my own, that I
really do want the things that I think I want, that I
really believe the things that I think I believe.
And with the incredibly intrusive nature of marketing and
advertising these days, I find that it's at times even
more difficult to be sure that I'm being authentic.
And I can only hope that the young people--who have been
exposed to much more advertising and marketing that I
have--are able to find their authentic selves in the midst
of so many people telling them who they should be and what
they should want.
You are you, and you are a wonderful person. Perhaps
there are many layers of defense and fear hiding all of
your wonderful qualities, but one of our most important
tasks in life is to work our way through those layers and
allow our wonderful attributes to shine through--and to
make sure that we're showing our unique attributes rather
than showing what we think others want to see.
It is a battle to be ourselves, but it's not necessarily a
battle against others. It's more like an internal
battle to be sure that we're being authentic, that we're
making decisions that are true to who and what we are, and
that we're not letting others influence us to a point of
taking away our uniqueness.
What are some of the most important motivations for the
decisions that you make?
Why do so many others feel that it's their right and duty
to make us think and feel in the same ways that they think
What is one strategy that you can adopt that will help you
to be aware of your uniqueness and authentic wants, needs,