10 April 2018
can go through our whole lives worrying about our future
and totally miss where true peace lives--right here, right
moment of patience may ward
off great disaster. One moment of
impatience may ruin a whole life.
we look for the good in others,
we discover the best in ourselves.
Let me share a true story. It's the inspiring story of
my friend Chuck Wall. He's been a listener to my
television talks for many, many years. He understands
possibility thinking, and he lives it!
Dr. Chuck Wall, a full-time professor at Bakersfield College,
has retinitis pigmentosa and is legally blind. Chuck
teaches management courses, including "Human Relations
and Motivation." Chuck holds to the theory that
while many people become technically knowledgeable in a given
field, unless and until they can get along with others,
they're not going to be as successful as they would
like. So he spends much of his time preparing business
students for the multicultural society in business today.
About two years ago Chuck, like millions of other people
around the world, became (he told me) "completely fed up
with the incredible amount of violence in the newspaper.
Listening to the radio or watching television has become
nothing more that a tour through murder, rape, massacre, and
assorted mayhem that tends to depress and demoralize us."
One morning as Chuck was preparing for his classes at
Bakersfield College, he overheard a radio announcer say,
"Today we have another random act of senseless violence
to report." And Chuck thought, "Violence--is
that all this world can talk about? Isn't there anything
else that can encourage us? Is there no good
But then he
started thinking about the phrase he'd just heard, and he had
a thought: "What if I took out the word violence
and put in the word kindness? I would take a very
well known negative phrase and turn it into a positive one,
and out of that could come a great assignment for my
So that morning Dr. Wall walked into his classroom to share
his new assignment with his students. He asked them to
write down their task: "Today I'll go out into my
community and commit at least one random act of senseless. . .
." he waited for them to catch up with him--"kindness!"
And they all exclaimed as one voice, "What?"
One student asked, "Is this going to count toward our
grade? How much is it worth?" Another asked,
"Does it have to be typed?" Still another
said, "And by the way, please define kindness for
us." Chuck refused to do that, because he wanted to
see in this assignment what his students believed kindness to
be. His only further instruction was that the assignment
was due in two weeks.
Chuck was inspired by his students. One, a woman named
Sharon (names are changed) who'd been out of school for some
years, took her eight-year-old daughter to visit patients at a
convalescent hospital. They walked up and down the
corridors offering encouragement to patients. She wrote,
"I don't know who benefited most from this experience--my
daughter and I or the patients--but it's immaterial now.
This is part of our quality time together. We plan to
visit hospitals every week."
Another student, a young man of nineteen named Carlos,
overheard his mother say to a friend on the telephone,
"I've just received my utility bill, and I don't know
where the money is going to come from to pay it. I'm
really afraid they're going to turn off the
electricity." Carlos went to the bank, withdrew
money from his own personal account--savings from his summer
job--went to the utility office, and paid the bill. He
took a stamped receipt home to a very grateful and proud mom.
Another student, Sara, found a very disheveled collie
wandering around her neighborhood. She took the dog home
and gave it a bath. Then she put some posters around the
neighborhood showing the dog's picture. She soon found
the owner, who was very, very pleased to get his dog back.
And how about Ashley, who found the last parking spot in a
huge, crowded parking lot? Gratefully she started to
pull in, only to look in her rear view mirror and see the
woman in the car behind her throwing up her hands in sheer
frustration, as if to say, "Where am I going to
park?" Ashley backed out of the parking spot and
waved the woman in. The recipient of the spot looked
amazed; she couldn't believe this was actually
happening. Ashley had to park about a quarter-mile away,
but she reported, "You know, I smiled for three
Chuck has received over fifteen thousand letters and phone
calls at his Bakersfield College office and has completed
about two hundred media interviews. At first he thought
the acts-of-kindness crusade was a fad, but people still call
and write letters describing their own acts of kindness and
talking about how there's renewed hope in this world. As
Chuck says, "Maybe kindness isn't the answer to all
of our world's problems, but it's where we have to
start. There's nothing new about this concept.
We've just forgotten it, and now it's time to remember.
"Challenge all of your readers to participate in this
acts-of-kindness crusade. Nothing gets done of a
positive nature until each one of us personally gets
involved. We don't have to wait for a governmental
decree to be made to realize that what you and I want in our
lives is the same thing that everyone else wants, and that's
respect and dignity. I want it. You want it.
So I challenge you to participate and become active. Today
I'll commit one random act of senseless kindness. Will
Chuck Wall, with his blindness, could be bitter and filled
with self-pity; instead, he bubbles with enthusiasm about
life, his marriage, and his career.
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Do We Deal with Setbacks?
An excerpt from "The Pocket Guide to Inner
The process of resolving an inner or interpersonal conflict
or handling an emotion that we have struggled with for many
years or decades, such as anger or fear, in a healthy manner is
one that frequently entails making progress and suffering
setbacks. We usually feel excited and pleased with
ourselves when we make some surprising progress and discouraged
and disappointed when we regress or backslide.
When we do suffer a discouraging setback, it tends to feel
like we are back at square one, but that is almost always not
the case. The progress we have made prior to the setback
is real; it is not to be discounted or negated, though our
feelings of disappointment, shame, or remorse and our subsequent
loss of perspective may try to convince us otherwise. One
key indicator that we have made and are continuing to make
progress is that the setback will not keep us down for very
long, not nearly as long as it may have in the past.
Progress is evident after a setback or moment of regression or
|We quickly apologize or make amends to the
person(s) we may have harmed.
|We spend less time and energy beating
ourselves up and forgive ourselves more quickly.
|We regain our perspective and see our
setback as a setback and nothing more than that, and
certainly not as anything that detracts from our value
as a human being.
|We assess what factors were at play in our
setback, such as feeling exhausted or overwhelmed, and
try to recognize these warning signs in the future.
|We recall specific times and situations in
the past when we had a taste of success in this
particular area of struggle or difficulty.
|We are able to poke a little bit of fun at
ourselves and not take our moment of regression with
such deathly seriousness.
|We realize that we are neither alone nor
unique in experiencing setbacks, but simply an imperfect
and mistake-prone human being like everyone else.
|We extend the compassion to ourselves that
we would to another person if he or she had suffered a
similar setback or moment of failure.
For instance, if we have recently lost our composure (which
happened to me just the other day when I was discussing religion
with someone), we usually feel disappointed with or even ashamed
of ourselves (Why did I let that happen? I should have
recognized that our conversation was going nowhere and either
agreed to disagree with this person or changed the subject!).
Our inner critical voice may be champing at the bit, as mine
always is, to put in his or her two cents worth.
But as is
often the case, a setback or regression of some type precedes or
paves the way for even greater progress. For some unknown
reason, a setback almost always seems to be necessary at times
in order for our next growth spurt to occur. Perhaps we
have another significant lesson to learn. Or maybe we need
to be reminded that whenever we react in familiar
counterproductive ways, such as yelling, the silent treatment,
blaming, retaliation, and the like, we are setting ourselves up
to suffer inevitable feelings of remorse or shame. A
setback, though often painful, is not without potential
redeeming value, for it frequently paves the way for a comeback
and gives us the momentum to grow more than we would have had we
not suffered the setback. Go figure! Personally, I
would prefer to make significant progress without having to
suffer setbacks, but life doesn't usually seem to work that way.
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is a series of choices and as all ideas in this manifested
universe are divided
as opposites, we can choose the
negative ego approach or the positive spiritual
. . . From the negative ego approach we learn that we will
we balance our actions and bring our lives
into harmony with the laws that govern
This is called the law of hard knocks or karma. With
spiritual approach we choose to live in
obedience to God's will, to live in harmony
laws without being pushed into it. This can be
called the school of grace.
the Do-It-Now Habit
really encompasses nearly everything in life. Do you remember in
school when you were given 30 days to write a term paper? Did you
start it that first night?
of us didn’t. Instead, we thought about it every night. “Got to
get moving on that ratty project. But I’ve got almost a whole month
left—it can wait.” As time goes by, worry about getting a failing
grade looms larger in our minds. At first the pain of starting the
term paper is greater than our concern about the failing grade, so
after a week we still haven’t started. Two weeks go by. What are we
doing every night before we go to sleep? Worrying about that F.
better start. Tomorrow I’ll get moving on it.”
A week before the term paper is due, the F is getting larger, but
it’s still not quite large enough to offset the pain of working at
preventing it. All of a sudden there are only three days left
before it’s due, and at last the F looms larger than the pain of
working on the term paper. So we start.
you lay it out you begin feeling some enthusiasm. “This
isn’t bad. I may get an A if I do this and do that.”
When you walk in with your paper you’re happy, but you wasted 27
days worrying about starting. In other words, you operated at a
deficit emotionally for 27 days when you could have been in the profit
column the whole time. Move into the emotional profit column
right now; starting today, get your priority tasks and actions handled
promptly. Plan your actions then act on your plans. Apply
this determination to every area of your life and it will make an
enormous difference in your income, growth rate in business as well as
your satisfaction and growth rate personally.
The portrait of a man who was being called the Whiz Kid on Wall Street
appeared on the cover of a national magazine many years ago. He was
one of the first to put a conglomerate together, and some of the
federal laws affecting business in the early ’70s came about because
of the trends that his creativity set off. At the time he was 42; he
was running one of the largest industrial combines in the country, the
conglomerate he had built himself. So the magazine had assigned a
journalist and a team of researchers to do an in-depth report on this
of the researchers went to the small city the dynamic executive had
left 15 years earlier. A few items turned up there about an alcoholic
with the same name who had been sleeping on park benches at that time.
The researcher passed this information along, and as the journalist
was concluding his interview with the Wall Street powerhouse in his
plush office, the journalist laughed and said, “Believe it or not, a
man with your exact name was sleeping on park benches and getting
ousted by the police when you lived in your hometown. I guess the poor
guy was a real wino. Isn’t that something?”
president looked up and smiled. “That was me,” he said.
reporter was flabbergasted. “This can’t be. You’re kidding.”
president of the conglomerate leaned back in his leather chair and
shook his head. “I’m not kidding. The wino sleeping off drinks on
park benches was me.”
journalist stared at him for a moment and realized that the man was
telling the truth. He also realized that now he had a whole new story.
When his apologies were waved aside, he said, “I have to ask, what
made you change?”
to what he said because so many people fit this mold: “When I was
sleeping under newspapers in the park 15 years ago, I knew that
someday I would do what I’m doing now. I was just waiting until I
was ready to start.”
you know how many people are like that? “Well, next year’s my
year. I’m going to get to work then. You just wait and see—right
after the first of the year I’m gonna start shaping up.” But, of
course, the time to get going never quite comes for most people.
have good intentions but are lacking the two most vital components of
any good deed: the motivation to begin and a strategic plan to keep
them moving forward.
see, by not beginning, you’re not only risking failure, but you’re also
confining yourself to the level of success you currently have. If
you’re happy with that, fine. If not, make that plan and get fired
your potential for greater success is nagging at you, don’t wait.
Time is flying by so fast. Start today to achieve the greatness you
know is within you.
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The biggest secret of self-esteem
is this: Begin to appreciate
other people more, show respect
for any human being merely
because he or she is
of God and therefore
a "thing of value."
use the word "love" but we have no more
understanding of love than we do of anger or fear or
jealousy or even joy, because we have seldom investigated
what that state of mind is. What are the feelings we
so quickly label as love? For many what is called love
is not lovely at all but is a tangle of needs and desires,
of momentary ecstasies and bewilderment. Moments of
unity, of intense feelings of closeness, occur in a mind so
fragile that the least squint or sideways glance shatters
its oneness into a dozen ghostly paranoias.
When we say love we usually mean some emotion, some deep
feeling for an object or person, that momentarily allows us
to open to another. But in such emotional love,
self-protection is never very far away. Still there is
"business" to the relationship: clouds of
jealousy, possessiveness, guilt, intentional and
unintentional manipulation, separateness, and the shadow of
all previous "loves" darkens the light of oneness.
But what I mean by love is not an emotion, it is a state of
being. True love has no object. Many speak of
their unconditional love for another. Unconditional
love is the experience of being; there is no "I"
and "other," and anyone or anything it touches is
experienced in love. You cannot unconditionally love
someone. You can only be unconditional love. It
is not a dualistic emotion. It is a sense of oneness
with all that is. The experience of love arises when
we surrender our separateness into the universal. It
is a feeling of unity. You don't love another, you are
another. There is no fear because there is no
I am shocked to have
discovered this morning that I am the only me there is.
I think this is the key to everything--compassion, kindness,
trust of life, mystery.
A genuine and not inflated sense of importance and
self-value. I've spent most
of my life comparing myself to other men. Are they ahead
of me in Forbes? Do
they sit on more powerful boards? Are they smarter?
Sexier? Do they have
more hair? And all the time there is this other way of
seeing things. I am not one
of the motors my company produces by the hundreds of
thousands. I am
handmade. Less than perfect but more a work of creation
than a product of
technology. And I am not alone in this. Everyone is
the only "me" there is.
unattributed (an unknown cancer survivor)
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