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Today's
Meditation:
These words get straight to one of the most important
questions we can ever ask ourselves: what remains
unsaid between us and other people whom we love? And
why, for goodness' sake, does it remain unsaid?
Pride? Fear? Assuming that the other person
knows what we would say? Waiting for the other
person to say it first? Absolutely none of these
reasons make much sense, to be honest.
I first heard this idea many years ago when I was living
in Germany, and it struck me very strongly. Since
then, I've tried to make it a point to tell people how
they've affected me in positive ways-- that I appreciate
their friendship, that I enjoy working with them, that I
really like the ways they do certain things, that they're
very special people. (The trick is to do so without
having them think that I want something from them!)
With the idea of death involved, one would hope that your
need would be to call someone with a very positive
message, for what good would a negative one do anyone?
Thinking about impending death and whom you would call with
that one phone call lends an intensity to this concept
that's very important to consider. The question
forces us to think of a person to whom we haven't said
what we need to say, to let that person know something
that's very important that they know-- and they ought to
hear it directly from us. Because we're limited to
one phone call, we ought to be thinking of the most
important unsaid thing in our lives, and there's really no
valid reason at all why that something shouldn't be said--
not fear, not pride, not the possibility of being
misunderstood.
This could be the most important phone call that we ever
make-- not just for ourselves, but also for the person(s)
whom we call. And if we were to do the same thing
one week later, who would be the next person on the
list? And how would we be contributing in positive
ways to our own lives by sharing important feelings with
people who are very important to us?
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