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Today's
Meditation:
This is true, in my experience, though I would change
the wording slightly to "the greater is their power to
continue to harm us." After all, if we keep
holding on to the negative and worry about our misfortunes
and all the bumps in the roads that have hurt us, then
that focus in itself will cause us to miss most of the
beauty and wonder that is all around us, all the
time. It really is our choice as to what we focus
on, so it's important that we realize that and do our best
not to let misfortune continue to harm us.
Sometimes the misfortunes are drastic, such as the death
of a loved one, and it will take longer for us to let such
things go. But "longer" doesn't mean
"forever," and eventually we have to make a
decision about just what we're going to focus on.
We're taught that if a situation is bad, we should get out
of it; if a relationship is bad, we should end it; if a
job is bad, we should quit it. But we're not taught
too much about our thoughts and their effects on us, so
not too many people try to teach us to change our thoughts
if we want to change our lives. We may hear people
say things like "you've got to move on," or
"get over it," but until we're actually able to
recognize and accept the harm that we're doing to
ourselves, we won't be able to get over it. The
misfortune itself doesn't hurt us long, but our thoughts
about it continue the pain until we change it.
We all face hardship and misfortune. That's
life. But the most important thing we can do is
accept them as part of our lives, accept that they've
happened, and move on. Spend the necessary time
grieving or feeling anger or mourning, but then make the
decision to take the power away from the misfortune and
put your life back on track.
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