August 5      

Today's quotation:

Being a good friend and having a good friend can enrich your days and bring you lifelong satisfaction.  But friendships have to be created and nurtured.  Like any other skill, building friendship has to be practiced.

Sue Browder

Today's Meditation:

Friendship has always been a difficult challenge for me.  I grew up moving constantly, never keeping friends for a long time.  I developed the habit of thinking that no one wanted to be around me, that no one really wanted to be my friend, that when people were with me, they were doing me some kind of favor.  So you can imagine just how unsuccessful I've been at making and keeping friends.  I don't feel the same way now that I'm older, but many of the habits that I developed in my very early years still stick with me, and they sometimes keep me from creating and nurturing friendships.

Friends are a true treasure in this life.  Treasures don't just fall into our laps-- it takes work to find them, uncover them, and manage them.  It may be true that not all friends have equal value to us, but that may also be a question of perspective.  I may like being with a certain friend more than with another, but that other friend may challenge me in ways that are very important for my development as a human being, and thus being with that person may be better for me.

Not all of our acquaintances can be considered to be friends.  We know a lot of people, and some of them are just better as people we know, rather than as friends.  A friend is a person with whom we have a special bond, and it can be disastrous to throw around the term too much.  On the other hand, it can be just as bad not to allow someone to become a friend just because we're afraid of the commitment or the responsibility.  I want to have friends, but I know that the number of friends must be manageable.  After all, when a true friend needs me I'll drop everything I can to be there for them-- and I can't do that for too many people.

We can cultivate our friendships just by getting together every now and then; by sending them a note or a card from time to time; by checking in on them to see how they are if we haven't seen them for a while.  While we can spend fantastic times with them, too-- a couple of friends and I went to run in the Grand Canyon together-- those times are bonuses, and not at all necessary for a true friendship.  Let's do something positive to help our friendships to grow and stay strong, and let's do that today.

Questions to consider:

What kinds of things can you do to help to cultivate your friendships?

Why do so many of us think that friendships just "happen"?

What happens to friendships if the friends don't make an effort to maintain them?
For further thought:

Human beings are born into this little span of life of which the best thing is its friendships and intimacies. . . and yet they leave their friendships and intimacies with no cultivation, to grow as they will by the roadside, expecting them to "keep" by force of mere inertia.

William James

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