Today's
quotation:
Hospitality
means primarily the creation of free space where the stranger
can enter and become a friend instead of an enemy. Hospitality is
not to
change people, but to offer them space where change can take
place. It is not to bring men and women over to our side,
but to offer freedom not disturbed by dividing lines.
Henri J.M. Nouwen
Reaching Out
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Today's
Meditation:
Some of the
most pleasant times in my life have come in the homes of
people who have been truly hospitable. I have spent
time with many marvelous people who have been very
generous and courteous, and who have made me feel right at
home when I've been with them. That's the kind of
hospitality that I strive to practice myself, for when
someone visits I hope that they're completely comfortable
and not worried about doing something "wrong" in
our home.
We
stayed once with some friends of my wife who invited us to stay a couple of nights with them while we
were traveling cross-country. They were quite
wealthy and had a huge house, and they were very nice
people. Unfortunately, though, we felt like
strangers in their home every minute, and we were
constantly worried about doing something we weren't
supposed to do, about messing something up, about being in
the wrong room at the wrong time, about eating something
we weren't supposed to eat. We were incredibly
relieved to drive away from there.
If we
want to be hospitable, we have to let others be themselves
(within certain limits, of course) and feel that they're
free to be themselves. We give them their space and
we respect it, and we let them know the limits of our
space (I wouldn't want a guest going through the dresser
drawers in our bedroom!). One of the hardest parts
of hospitality is giving our guests the opportunity to
spend alone time, but it's not impossible, and it's
something that's important to plan into any visit.
Being
hospitable will look different for each of us, but the
universal part of it is reflected in both Henri and
Karen's words-- looking to meet the needs of our guests and
helping them to relax and feel comfortable in our
homes. We should strive to ensure that people leave
our homes glad that they came to visit us, and not glad
that they're leaving.
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