am somebody. I am me. I like being me.
And I need nobody
to make me somebody.
never met a person, I don't care what his or her condition, in
I could not see possibilities. I don't care how much people may consider
themselves failures, I believe in them,
for they can change the thing
that is wrong in their lives
anytime they are prepared and ready to do it. Whenever they develop the desire,
they can take away from their lives
things that are defeating them. The capacity for reformation
and change lies within.
One can inspire a group
only if one
oneself is filled with confidence
and hope of success.
Floyd V. Filson
is as far from conceit as the desire to earn a decent
living is remote from greed.
People are timid and apologetic;
they are no longer upright;
they dare not say "I think," "I am," but quote
some saint or sage. They are ashamed before the blade
of grass or the blowing rose.
These roses under my
window make no reference to former roses
better ones; they are for what they are; they exist with
Confidence is that feeling by which
great and honorable courses
with a sure hope
and trust in itself.
people behind the words
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face life without confidence in your own powers, you succumb
too easily to setbacks and adversity; you lack the will to persevere.
Self-Esteem Every Day
evidence that the higher
the level of
the more likely one will
treat others with
People who do
or no capacity
Only the person who has faith in
herself is able to be faithful to others.
way in which we think of ourselves has everything
do with how our world sees us.
Experience tells you
what to do;
confidence allows you to do it.
| Have you ever
wondered what it would be like to have "perfect"
confidence in yourself and your abilities? Complete
confidence that allowed you to know that
you could do whatever you needed to do? I wonder
that often, for it must be a great feeling.
I'm not that far from it, though,
and I know that one of the greatest strides I've
ever taken in developing confidence in myself has
had to do with accepting two things: I'm
good at what I do well, and there are certain
things that I don't do well at all.
It used to be that I never gave
myself credit for being able to do what I did
well. I would compare myself to others who did
things much better than I, never allowing myself
to admit that they had had a lot more experience
at whatever it was than I had. At times I was
even hyper-critical of myself, a trait that
proved to be nothing but destructive.
But I know now that there are plenty
of things that I do very well. I may not be the
best at what I do, but I am very good at some
particular things, and I give myself credit for
that, and I always try to improve my skills.
I can write, I can build things, I can
develop a website, and I can do those things well.
Those things I can't do well--play the guitar and
sing, for example, I do for fun now, not to try
We live in a culture that overvalues
the concept of excelling. Many people lose
confidence in themselves not because they're not
able to do things well, but because they're not
able to excel. One student of mine once
told me that she didn't have any confidence in
her writing because the papers that she read by
the other students were so much better than hers.
What she didn't realize was that she was sitting
next to one of the best writers I've ever seen in
a college composition course, and she always read
this student's papers first. The student who didn't
have confidence in her writing was also a very
good writer--by far the second-best in the class--but
she had lost confidence because she was comparing
herself to a much better writer.
There's nothing wrong with trying to
excel. But if your best isn't as good as someone
else's, don't allow yourself to lose confidence--either
work harder to reach a new best, or accept that
that's the way things are, as long as you're
giving your all. The line from the "Desiderata"
says it all: "You are a child of the
universe; no less than the trees and the stars,
you have a right to be here." Accepting this
idea as truth should give you all the confidence
As I said earlier, I'm not that far
from complete confidence, and that confidence
comes from knowing my strengths and weaknesses
and accepting them. I also know I'm not in
anything alone--I have friends and family and God
behind me, no matter what I do, and with that
kind of support, why wouldn't I be confident?
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are always blaming their circumstances for what they are.
The people who get on in this world are they who get up
for the circumstances they want, and, if they
can't find them, make them.
George Bernard Shaw
Optimism is the faith that leads to
Nothing can be done without hope and
and you will find that at the base and birth of every
business organization was an enthusiast, a person consumed
with earnestness of purpose, with confidence in
his or her powers,
with faith in the worthwhileness of his or her endeavors.
one burdens the future with one’s worries,
grow organically. I
am filled with confidence,
not that I
shall succeed in worldly things, but that even
go badly for me I shall still find life good and worth
to depend upon yourself by doing things in
with your own way of thinking.
grow a wishbone, daughter,
where your backbone ought to
happiness doesn't depend upon who you are or what you have;
it depends solely upon what you think. So start each day by
thinking of all
the things you have to be thankful for. Your future will depend
on the thoughts you think today. So think thoughts of hope
and confidence and love and success.
up your head! You
were not made for failure, you were made
for victory; go
forward with a joyful confidence in that result sooner
later, and the sooner or later depends mainly on yourself.
Rules for Building Self-Confidence
Focus on your potential instead of your limitations.
2. Determine to know the truth about yourself.
3. Distinguish between who you are and what you do.
4. Find something you like to do and do well, then do it
over and over.
5. Replace self-criticism with regular, positive
6. Replace fear of failure with clear pictures of
yourself functioning successfully and happily.
7. Dare to be a little eccentric.
8. Make the best possible peace with your parents.
9. Determine to integrate the body and spirit.
10. Determine to live above neurotic guilt.
11. Cultivate people who help you grow.
12. Refuse to allow rejection to keep you from taking
the initiative with people.
Every great discovery I ever made,
gambled that the truth was there,
and then I acted in
faith until I could prove its existence.
Arthur H. Compton
If you have no confidence in
self, you are twice defeated in the race
of life. With confidence, you have won even before you have
You can't make
yourself feel positive, but you can choose how to
act, and if you choose right, it builds your confidence.
Does everyone feel this
way? When I was young, I was perpetually
overconfident or insecure. Either I felt completely useless,
and worthless, or that I was pretty much a success, and everything I
was bound to succeed. When I was confident, I could overcome the
hardest challenges. But all it took was the smallest setback for
me to be
sure that I was utterly worthless. Regaining my self-confidence
nothing to do with success. . . whether I experienced it as a failure
or triumph was utterly dependent on my mood.
I came into the room, she'd light up, so happy to see me. No one
ever in the course of my entire life was ever as happy to see me as
Looking back, now, I realize that you only ever need one person who
up that way when you enter a room. One person is
all it takes to give a kid confidence.
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only means something when you're talking about a task that's
difficult. If the task is easy--something like making
toast--you wouldn't even use the word confident.
It would sound pretty weird to say, "I'm very confident
I'm going to be able to toast this slice of bread."
If the task is easy, you just do it without thinking about it.
Now here's what the inner world of confident people is really
like as they face difficult tasks. They don't think, I'm
going to be successful. They think, I accept what
I bring to this. I'm not going to be perfect. I
might run into difficulties. But whatever happens I'll
find a way to cope. I'll keep working at it until things
turn out good enough. I'm not going to worry about
things I have no control over. I'll be okay whatever
So when it comes to things that are difficult, confidence
is all about feeling at home. Deep in the heart of
confidence is a shrug, not a swagger.
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