are they who expect nothing,
for they shall never be disappointed.
Disappointment is a good sign of basic
intelligence. It cannot be
compared to anything
else: it is so sharp, precise, obvious, and
direct. If we can open, then we suddenly begin to see
expectations are irrelevant compared with the
reality of the
situations we are facing.
you find your path, you must not be afraid. You need to
sufficient courage to make mistakes. Disappointment,
despair are the tools God uses to show us the way.
must make a decision that you are going to move on. It won't
happen automatically. You will have to rise up and say, "I
how hard this is, I donít care how disappointed I am, Iím not
to let this get the best of me. Iím moving on with my life."
Your Best Life Now
in love, even betrayals and losses, serve
the soul at the very moment they seem in life to be
tragedies. The soul is partly in time and partly in
eternity. We might remember the part that resides in
eternity when we feel despair over the part that is in
Care of the Soul
long as we carry an idealized version of how things and
including ourselves, should be, we are likely to
experiencing disappointment in our lives.
people behind the words
Two - Year Three
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was one of those times you feel a sense of loss, even though
you didn't have something in the first place. I guess that's what
disappointment is--a sense of loss for something you never had.
The Nature of Jade
to a noble soul
is what cold water is to
burning metal; it strengthens,
tempers, intensifies, but
never destroys it.
Eliza Tabor Stephenson
is a sort of bankruptcy--the bankruptcy of a
soul that expends too much in hope and expectation.
we refuse to work with our disappointment, we break the Precepts:
rather than experience the disappointment, we resort to anger,
criticism. Yet it's the moment of being that disappointment which is
and, if we are not willing to do that, at least we should notice
that we are not
willing. The moment of disappointment in life is an incomparable
gift that we
receive many times a day if we're alert. This gift is always present
anyone's life, that moment when "It's not the way I want it!"
Charlotte Joko Beck
There can be
no deep disappointment where there is not deep love.
Luther King, Jr.
|The peculiar predicament of the present-day
self surely came to pass as a consequence of the
disappointment of the high expectations of the self as it
entered the age of science and technology. Dazzled by the
overwhelming credentials of science, the beauty and elegance
of the scientific method, the triumph of modern medicine
over physical ailments, and the technological transformation
of the very world itself, the self finds itself in the end
disappointed by the failure of science and technique in
those very sectors of life which had been its main source of
ordinary satisfaction in past ages.
As John Cheever said, the main emotion of the adult
Northeastern American who has had all the advantages of
wealth, education, and culture is disappointment.
Work is disappointing. In spite of all the talk about making
work more creative and self-fulfilling, most people hate
their jobs, and with good reason. Most work in modern
technological societies is intolerably dull and repetitive.
Marriage and family life are disappointing. Even among
defenders of traditional family values, e.g., Christians and
Jews, a certain dreariness must be inferred, if only from
the average time of TV viewing. Dreary as TV is, it is
evidently not as dreary as Mom talking to Dad or the kids
talking to either.
School is disappointing. If science is exciting and art is
exhilarating, the schools and universities have achieved the
not inconsiderable feat of rendering both dull. As every
scientist and poet knows, one discovers both vocations in
spite of, not because of, school. It takes years to recover
from the stupor of being taught Shakespeare in English Lit
and Wheatstone's bridge in Physics.
Politics is disappointing. Most young people turn their
backs on politics, not because of the lack of excitement of
politics as it is practiced, but because of the shallowness,
venality, and image-making as these are perceived through
the media--one of the technology's greatest achievements.
The churches are disappointing, even for most believers. If
Christ brings us new life, it is all the more remarkable
that the church, the bearer of this good news, should be
among the most dispirited institutions of the age. The
alternatives to the institutional churches are even more
grossly disappointing, from TV evangelists with their
blown-dry hairdos to California cults led by prosperous
gurus ignored in India but embraced in La Jolla.
Social life is disappointing. The very franticness of
attempts to reestablish community and festival, by partying,
by groups, by club, by touristy Mardi Gras, is the best
evidence of the loss of true community and festival and of
the loneliness of self, stranded as it is as an unspeakable
consciousness in a world from which it perceives itself as
somehow estranged, stranded even within its own body, with
which it sees no clear connection.
But there remains the one unquestioned benefit of science:
the longer and healthier life made possible by modern
medicine, the shorter work-hours made possible by
technology, hence what is perceived as the one certain
reward of dreary life of home and the marketplace:
Recreation and good physical health appear to be the only
ambivalent benefits of the technological revolution.
Lost in the Cosmos: The Last Self-Help Book
is really just a term for our refusal to look on the bright side.
Richelle E. Goodrich
One minute of
sincere gratitude can wash away a lifetimeís disappointments.
Anytime you suffer a setback
put your head down and plow ahead.
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is followed by disappointment and even
depression, and then by renewed enthusiasm.
more we shelter children from every disappointment,
the more devastating future disappointments will be.
Fred G. Gosman
The size of your success is
measured by the strength of your desire;
size of your dream; and how you handle disappointment along the
make disappointments seem unbearable, whereas realistic
beliefs help us to accept disappointment and go on from there.
usually occur when we attempt to do something great.
If you want to avoid being disappointed, donít attempt anything
do we so frequently, and predictably, experience
probably lies in another question that we need to ask
ourselves: Why do we want things to be a certain way and not the
way they are? Is it because we are convinced that our way is
only way, or the only way for us? Is it because we are
to consider any other way? Is it because we are
reluctant to accept
things as they are? As
long as we carry an idealized version of how
things and people,
including ourselves, should be, we are likely to
experiencing disappointment in our lives. Sometimes, that
disappointment is so automatic a response that it quickly
anger, and before we know it, we have said or done
to express that disappointment-turned-anger!
who expect too much are always disappointed.
You would do well to remember that, my boy.
The Valley of Secrets
child will grow up and find out things for herself. She will
that I lied. She will be disappointed. That is what is
called learning the
truth. It is a good thing to learn the truth one's self.
To first believe
with all your heart, and then not to believe, is good too. It
emotions and makes them to stretch. When as a woman life and
people disappoint her, she will have had practice in disappointment
and it will not come so hard. In teaching your child, do not
that suffering is good, too. It makes a person rich in
A Tree Grows in Brooklyn
|Anger, resentment and
disappointment, in most cases, can not
exist in our lives without our expressed permission. An honest
and sincere introspection will reveal that all three emotions are
centered and rooted in self. They are self preserving
sprung to life by our inconveniently unmet expectations. Joy
and contentment replaces these emotions when we genuinely
put others before ourselves.
A Walk with Prudence
most valuable knowledge we can have is how
to deal with disappointments.