self - self-respect
Love your neighbor as you love your self.
Jesus of Nazareth
have trouble loving yourself, imagine that everyone in the world
is a hungry soul whose life has been imperfect. Like you,
imperfect parents. Like you, tragedies and difficulties befell
them. If you could hear each person's story, you would probably be
moved to tears
and want to reach out and embrace that person. You
would want to tell them
that in spite of everything they've gone
through, they have great value.
You can explore the universe looking for somebody
who is more deserving
of your love and affection than you are
yourself, and you will
not find that person anywhere. You,
yourself, as much as anybody
in the entire universe, deserve your
love and affection.
most of all, I will love myself. For when I do, I will
all things which enter my body, mind and soul. Never will I
the requests of my flesh, rather I will cherish my body with
and moderation. Never will I allow my mind to be attracted
to evil and despair,
rather I will uplift it with the wisdom and knowledge of the
ages. Never will
I allow my soul to become complacent and satisfied, rather I will
with meditation and prayer. Never will I allow my heart to
and bitter, rather I will share it and it will grow and warm the
People often say that 'beauty is in the eye of the
and I say that the most liberating thing about beauty
realizing that you are the beholder. This empowers us
find beauty in places where others have not dared
including inside ourselves.
Self-love is not opposed to the love of other
yourself and do yourself a favor
doing other people a favor, and vice versa.
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I believe that probably the most important thing is
that a loving person is a person
who loves him or herself.
Now people are going to sit up and say, "Oh, oh, what does
mean by that?" I'm not talking about the ego
trip. I'm not talking about standing
before a mirror and
saying, "Mirror, mirror, on the wall, who's the fairest one
You're so right, mirror." You know that
isn't what I'm talking about when I say a person
who loves him or
herself. I'm talking about a person who loves oneself as
who realizes that you can only give away what you
have, so you damned well better
work at getting something.
You want to be the most educated, the most brilliant, the most
exciting, the most versatile, the most creative individual in the
world, because then you
can give it away; and the only reason you
have anything is to give it away.
If you aren't good at
have a difficult
and energy you
aren't even giving to
Barbara De Angelis
Don't forget to love yourself.
My primary relationship is with myself--all others
are mirrors of it. As
I learn to love myself, I automatically receive
the love and appreciation
that I desire from others. If I am
committed to myself and to living
truth, I will attract others
with equal commitment. My willingness
intimate with my own
deep feelings creates the space for intimacy
As I learn to love myself, I receive the love I desire from
You will always have to live with yourself, and it
is to your best
interest to see that you have good company -- a
straight, honest, upright, generous, magnanimous
Orison Swett Marden
It is of practical value to learn to like yourself.
Since you must
spend so much time with yourself you might as well
get some satisfaction out of the relationship.
Norman Vincent Peale
You must love yourself before you love another. By
accepting yourself and fully being what you are,
presence can make others happy.
|I am a feminist, and what that means to me is much
as the meaning of the fact that I am Black: it means that
undertake to love myself and to respect myself as though
very life depends upon self-love and self-respect.
There comes a time when you have to stand up and
This is me damn it! I look the way I look, think the way I think,
feel the way I feel,
love the way I love! I am a whole complex
package. Take me. . . or leave me.
Accept me--or walk away! Do not
try to make me feel like less of a person,
just because I don't
fit your idea of who I should be and don't try to change
me to fit
your mold. If I need to change, I alone will make that decision.
When you are strong enough to love yourself 100%, good and bad--
you will be amazed at the opportunities that life presents you.
Self-love is the foundation of our loving practice.
our other efforts to love fail. Giving ourselves love
we provide our
inner being with the opportunity to have the
unconditional love we
may have always longed to receive from
self - self-respect
|My imperfections and failures are as much a
blessing from God
as my successes and my talents and I
lay them both at his feet.
Love yourself first and everything falls into line.
of us who are so-called givers can fall into this trap with
ease. We take care of everyone in our life and we like this
But somehow we don't make it onto our own list of the deserving.
It is important for us to realize that we are also human beings,
consider our experience as we would any other person's, to know
that we too are deserving of basic kindness, the same kindness
that we so readily offer to others. With this small but
shift in awareness, our ability to love cracks open. Once
suffering and longings matter, we are able to love with
the true fullness of our being, ourselves included.
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of the time you are growing up, people tell you what's wrong with
coach tells you, your parents tell you, the teachers tell you when
they grade you.
I think that's very good in the early stages, because it helps you
then develop skills.
But at some point in your career, generally I think when you are
in your teens, you
look in a mirror and you have to say, despite all the bumps and
warts, "I like that
person I'm looking at, and let's just do our best."
Robert D. Ballard
The question "Is this an act of self-love or
is it an act of self-sabotage?" is
one you must consistently ask yourself if you are committed to
that you want and all that you deserve. When you love
yourself you feel
worthy and deserving of claiming the gifts of this world.
Self-love gives you
peace of mind and balance. Self-love gives you self-respect
and the ability
to respect others. It gives you the confidence to stand up
and ask for what
you want. Self-love is the main ingredient in a successful,
in order to be strong, you have to love yourself, and in order
to love yourself, you need thorough self-knowledge, you need
know everything about yourself, including your most hidden
the ones most difficult to accept.
|I am my own biggest
critic. Before anyone else has criticized me, I have
already criticized myself. But for the rest of my life, I
am going to be with me and I don't want to spend my life
with someone who is always critical. So I am going to stop
being my own critic. It's high time that I accept all the
great things about me.
C. JoyBell C.
You can be the most
beautiful person in the world and everybody sees light and
rainbows when they look at you, but if you yourself don't
know it, all of that doesn't even matter. Every second that
you spend on doubting your worth, every moment that you use
to criticize yourself; is a second of your life wasted, is a
moment of your life thrown away. It's not like you have
forever, so don't waste any of your seconds, don't throw
even one of your moments away.
|I feel keeping
a promise to yourself is a direct reflection of the love you have
for yourself. I used to make promises to myself and find them easy
Today, I love myself enough to not only make a promise to myself,
but I love myself enough to keep that promise.
Life, the Truth, and Being Free
who love themselves come across as very loving, generous
they express their self-confidence through humility,
Living with Joy: Keys to Personal Power
and Spiritual Transformation
|Don't think it was a natural
process for me to leave my personality behind and put on a
character. Something deep inside me continued to rebel; one
part of me wanted to keep on being myself, while the other part,
the part that wanted to be loved, tried to comply with the world's
demands. I detested my mother and the superficial, empty
manner she had. I detested her, and yet slowly, against my will, I
was becoming just like her. That is the great, terrible
blackmail of every upbringing, the one it's just about impossible
to escape. No child can live without love. That's why
we follow the model prescribed to us, even if we don't like it at
all, even if we think it's wrong. The effects of this
transaction persist into adulthood. When you become a mother
it resurfaces whether you want it to or not, you may not even
notice it, but it's shaping your actions once again. So when
your mother was born, I was absolutely convinced I'd behave
differently. And in fact I did, but the differences were
superficial and completely false. To avoid imposing on your
mother a model like the one that had been imposed on me at a
tender age, I always left her free to make choices. I wanted
her to feel she had my approval in everything she did. I
constantly told her, "We're two different people and each of
us must respect the other's differences."
There was a mistake in all this, a serious mistake. Do you
know what it was? It was my lack of identity. Even
though I was now an adult, I wasn't secure about anything. I
wasn't able to love myself or have esteem for myself.
from Follow Your Heart
that I must be kind to myself. I am my own best
friend and I must be loving towards myself each day. If I
care of myself and if I am generous towards myself, I am more
likely to be loving and good to others. . . . So I give myself all
the importance and all the attention I need. This way,
I can accomplish the greatest of things.
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for others is the manifestation of love for self. We cannot love
more than we love ourselves. Life is a mirror. If you want to know
for yourself looks like, look at your love for others. If you want
what your love for others look like, look at your love for self.
When you love
yourself this way, you love God this way. This relationship is the
divine love triangle: self, God, and others in any order.
Marlon Hartley Lindsay
When we don't love ourselves unconditionally, the
conditional love we give ourselves is all we
have to give anyone.
When we see ourselves as flawed, we also see
others as flawed.
We receive mixed messages about taking good care of
ourselves. Love thy
neighbor as thyself means to love thyself and thy neighbor.
Yet, self-love often is confused with selfishness and
conceit. We are selfish
when we do not love and accept ourselves, and attempt to take from
to fill the emptiness.
Conceit indicates low self-worth and an attempt to
conceal it. It is difficult
to extend to others what you have not been able to give yourself.
Take good care of yourself so you can care about the
rest of us.
Success Is the Quality of Your Journey
catch is, to transmit the highest frequency of love, you must love
yourself, and that can be difficult for many. If you focus
on the outside
and what you see now, you may trip yourself up, because what you
and feel about you now is the result of what you used to
think. If you
don't love you, the person you see now is likely to be full
of faults that you have found in yourself.
To love yourself fully, you must focus on a new dimension of
must focus on the presence inside of You. Take a
moment and sit still.
Focus on feeling the life presence inside you. As you
focus on the presence
within, it will begin to reveal itself to You. It is a
feeling of pure love
and bliss, and it is perfection. That presence is the
perfection of You.
That presence is the real You. As you focus on
that presence, as you
feel, love, and praise that presence, you will love yourself
quite possibly for the first time in your life.
self - self-respect
|Growing up, I was the kind of
kid that thrived on approval, so when
I didn't get any I thought that there must be something wrong with
I must not deserve to be loved and cherished. As a teen, I even
to take my life because I thought I wasn't worthy enough
to take up space on the planet.
It was a long journey to discover that I was a
good person. One of
the things that helped, was to travel back through time to that
me. I imagined that I was holding young Denise on my lap and I
her, again and again, that she was a lovable, worthwhile person.
Eventually she began to believe me.
Being loved and cherished starts with loving
yourself. Tell that younger
you, "You are so loved and lovable. You deserve the best in
life!" and by
doing this your present and your future are enriched. It works.
can be loved by your family, your mate, and your friends yet
not love yourself. You can be admired by your associates yet
regard yourself as worthless. You can project an image of
assurance and poise that fools almost everyone yet secretly
tremble with a sense of inadequacy. You can fulfill the
of others yet fail your own. You can win every honor yet
you have accomplished nothing. What shall it profit a person
the esteem of the whole world yet lose his or her own?
Self-Esteem Every Day
do not trust people who don't love themselves and yet tell me,
"I love you." There is an African saying which is:
"Be careful when a naked person offers you a shirt.”
|The feeling of
being valuable is a cornerstone of self-discipline because
when you consider yourself valuable you will take care of
including things like using your time well. In this way,
self-discipline is self-caring.
M. Scott Peck
The Road Less Traveled
problem, of course, is that we haven't learned to love ourselves.
That's the first problem. We can only give to another what
we have to
give. And if we have no love over here, we can't give it
Little Book of Life
The first love affair you
must consummate is the love affair with
yourself. Only then are you ready for a romantic
of us fear that we are not attractive or desirable enough to
others. We have believed that we are "not
enough." Today let's remind
ourselves that we all receive our beauty, energy, and light from
inexhaustible source. As we acknowledge this and begin to
appreciate ourselves as we are, our channel opens and we have
to us the infinite vitality, beauty, and magnetism of the life
Reflections in the Light
is when you love who you are and
you are able to accept yourself and others.
If you feel loved and cherished--even if it is
only by yourself--
then you will have more love to give to others, too.
does it mean to love ourselves. . . ? It means loving
even when we feel shame for having yelled at a friend. It
loving ourselves even when we secretly wish harm on another.
means continuing to love ourselves even when we let opportunities
to do something good for other people slip by.
There will be days when we need to make the conscious
to love ourselves moment by moment. We will never be
we can be better people than we were in the past. A brief
inventory will reflect this: perhaps we are learning to
think before we
act; perhaps we are treating friends or even strangers less
perhaps we are seeing the benefits of loving others
In time we will realize the gains we have made.
We will see that it
is possible to love ourselves fully, even though
we have not become perfect.
A Woman's Spirit
had always thought self-esteem was a state of being.
Now I realize it's the constant decision to love myself,
regardless of circumstances, all day long.
Loving yourself implies being able to admit your
that even though things haven't always been easy, you've always
as best you could. When you love yourself and you accept
you are, you're never afraid to grow, to learn and to change.