in life we judge ourselves not by the results of our
actions, but by what we decided in advance the results
'should' be, our expectations. We often speak of others'
expectations of us and how deadly they can be, yet we forget
that we develop expectations as well.
In many ways, our own
expectations can be more devastating than someone else's
expectation of us. We may have an initial knee-jerk reaction
to the idea of someone else having expectations, something
inside us that shouts 'No!' even as we try to live up to
them. Unfortunately, our own expectations seem normal and
'right' and we rarely question them.
time ago, I heard an expression that I must admit I don't
remember as consistently as I'd like: Let go and let God.
For me, it's the essence of letting go of my attachment to
the results. I believe (and tell my clients) that it is our
job to figure out what we want, to develop a clear picture
of that and to start moving towards it. It's God's
responsibility to figure out "how". Our actions
send a strong message that we are truly committed to
experiencing whatever our stated goal is. The process is
definitely one of "co-creation".
time you are feeling disappointed in how things are turning
out, here are some questions to help you determine if it's
time to let go:
I defined success in this area?
Where did that definition/number come from?
What is that result supposed to bring me? What feeling?
What other definition/number can bring me that feeling?
What am I learning in the process?
Am I taking all the actions necessary to make this come
Am I willing to let go of my attachment to the results?
greatest loss of time is delay and expectation, which depend
upon the future. We let go the present, which we have in our
power, and look forward to that which depends upon chance,
and so relinquish a certainty for an uncertainty."
think that God's delays are God's denials. Hold on; hold
fast; hold out. Patience is genius." --Comte de Buffon
be discouraged by a failure. It can be a positive
experience. Failure is, in a sense, the highway to success,
inasmuch as every discovery of what is false leads us to
seek earnestly after what is true, and every fresh
experience points out some form of error which we shall
afterwards carefully avoid." --John Keats
define attachment as an inordinate need to have something
occur in a specific way, at a specific time, in a specific
sequence, etc. and/or an inability to let go of that which
no longer serves. We may become attached to unhealthy
habits, rigid mindsets, negative thinking, defense
strategies, projected schedules, our own plans vs. the plan
of Spirit, the first idea vs. the best idea, etc."
Louise Morganti Kaelin. Louise was a Life Success Coach
who passed on in 2011. Rest in peace, Louise!