The following are actions to take, things to contemplate,
and simple philosophies that can help all of us have a life
that is as full and positive as possible regardless of how
long we are here in this lifetime.
1. Give and experience as much love as possible.
Love is probably the best gift we can give to ourselves
first, then to others in our lifetimes. It behooves us
all to learn to fully love ourselves first, and, in a more
"humanitarian" way, to all those with whom we come
into contact. It is not often easy for us to give
unconditional love to others, in part due to the way we
learned about love from our parents and society growing
up. To change that, and give at least the
"brotherly" form of love to all we meet and know,
is to practice true acceptance, and it will come back to us
2. Forgive and let go of all you feel has wronged
you. Let it go. Make a list of all the people
from childhood to the present you feel hurt or wronged you
in some way. It is sometimes helpful to ask yourself
if "you" had any responsibility in the way things
occurred. Then let it go. Write them a letter
stating you forgive them (which can be mailed or thrown away
Get yourself "complete" with
the past. Just one negative grudge or ill feeling held
on to can make it very hard for you to have any truly
positive and successful relationships now or in the future.
3. Do what you are good at and love to do. If
you are sitting behind a desk from eight to five every day
working for someone else, and you dislike your job or your
working environment, take steps to change it! Write
out what you are good at and what you really love in your
heart to do. Then go after it! If it means
changing jobs, locations, or working for yourself, do
it. Being true to yourself and your God-given talents
and desires will make your life so much happier in the end
that it will be worth it. When you can say that you
love your work and those you work with, you will have a much
more stress-free life, and the legacy you leave behind will
be great and cherished by the people you touched with your
genuine actions and words.
4. Be positive in all that you think, say, and
do. Get rid of any guilt feelings you have,
develop and trust your intuition, learn to quit worrying,
visualize and affirm being successful and prosperous,
develop and keep great faith, learn to deal
with anger so it is not destructive to you or others,
be totally responsible, learn to identify and control
your stress, live one day at a time, and
finally, trust a higher power or Universal Law to
help you in your life journey and give you some support
along the way.
The choice is ours how we live our lives. Many believe
that the true foundation of all that is great and lasting in
the world is based on love. Love is a core
value. And it is always there as a choice for us to
use in our lives or not.
"Only one life that soon is past; Only what's done with
love will last."
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Dennis R. Tesdell is an experienced personal development
and self-care coach as well as an author on personal growth,
self-care and self improvement issues.