The other day I was coaching Emily, a bright and self-aware
woman who's recently stepped up to a very big plate--she
wants to take her business to the next level. Her
decision holds the potential for many rich and fulfilling
rewards, but also contains a rather steep learning curve, an
increase in pressure and of course much higher stakes.
Interestingly enough, as she meets her days with passion and
excitement, she also notices an increase in how easily she
gets triggered and upset by seemingly mundane events that
throw her off and make her constantly question her ability
is a consultant who works in the education system, but she's
also single and very much wants to be in a long-term
relationship. When immersed in her work with others,
all she seems to notice is how happy and successfully
married her coworkers are. Then she feels jealous, and
begins to question her life, as if she's "missed the
she was describing her experience to me and musing about how
painfully distracting it was, she asked me, "What do
you think the universe is trying to tell me?"
then proceeded to take a very deep breath and respond.
I said, "The universe. . . well, not exactly. I
think it's your life." Then I told her that while
it might make it easier to blame her confused feelings on a
booming message from the universe, I thought it was her life
speaking to her.
firmly believe every day, your life does speak to you,
sometimes in quiet ways, and sometimes like a 2 X 4 on the
head. In Emily's case, I think some older part of her
wants permission to abandon her audacious dream of an
international career and focus instead on finding the
relationship that her childhood, and culture taught her
would be her ultimate fulfillment. Poised on the brink
of success, understandably Emily is scared.
to listen to your life offers you the gift of valuable
feedback from a very reliable source: YOU! The
art of life is to discern what the information means and
what to do with it. The opportunity for Emily is to
examine her fears, her old beliefs and what's getting in her
way--not to get caught up believing one choice over the
other, marriage over career, or career over marriage is the
Emily has to find her own answers about what her life is
telling her, as do we all. I believe being courageous
enough to ask the question creates the foundation we need in
our lives to be successful on all levels. So, what is
your life telling you?
YOUR life. . . imagine the possibilities!
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Helaine is a Life and Business Coach, who has been featured
in numerous publications, including "O" The Oprah
Magazine. She helps entrepreneurs and
professionals accelerate their professional success, while
achieving a more complete and fulfilling personal
life. She combines a broad range of professional
experience in her work, including management
positions in the education, training, retail and
international non-profit sectors. She loves her life
and awakens each day excited to make the world a better
place, one person at a time. Visit her at http://www.pathofpurpose.com.