greatest thing in the world is
to know how to belong to oneself.
Michel de Montaigne
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the fact that Iím me and no one else is one of my greatest assets.
Emotional hurt is the price a person has to pay in order to be
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Love is generally confused with dependence. Those of us
who have grown in true love know that we can love only in
proportion to our capacity for independence.
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were born together, and together you shall be for evermore. . .
But let there be spaces in your togetherness. . . Love one
another, but make not a bond of love. Let it rather be a moving
sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other's cup but
drink not from one cup. Give one another of your bread but eat not
of the same loaf. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let
each one of you be alone, Even as the strings of a lute are alone
though they quiver with the same music.
|Degrees of ability
vary, but the basic principle remains the same: the degree
of one's independence, initiative and personal love for
one's work determines his or her talent as a worker and
his worth as a man or woman. Independence is the only
gauge of human virtue and value. What a person is and
makes of him- or herself; not what they have or haven't
done for others. There is no substitute for personal
dignity. There is no standard of personal dignity except
Nature never said to me: Do not be poor; still
less did she say:
Be rich; her cry to me was always: Be independent.
Sebastien-Roch Nicolas De Chamfort
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treatment of both older people and children reflects the value we
place on independence and autonomy. We do our best to make our
children independent from birth. We leave them all alone in rooms
the lights out and tell them, Go to sleep by yourselves. And the old
people we respect most are the ones who will fight for their
who would sooner starve to death than ask for help.
I have long considered
as the grand blessing
of life, the basis
of every virtue; and independence I will
secure by contracting my wants,
though I were to live
on a barren heath.
Mary Wollstonecraft Shelley
The finest inheritance you
can give to a child is to allow it to
make its own way, completely on its own feet.
The most complex of creatures, and for this reason the most
dependent of creatures. On everything that has formed you, you may
depend. Do not balk at this apparent slavery. . . . a debtor to many,
pay for your advantages by the same number of dependencies.
Understand that independence is a form of poverty; that many things
claim you, that many also claim kinship with you.
It is easy in the world to
live after the world's opinion; it is easy in solitude
to live after our own; but the great person is one who in the midst
the crowd keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
|Independence is important to intelligent
decision making for two reasons. First, it keeps the
mistakes that people make from becoming correlated. Errors
in individual judgement won't wreck the group's collective
judgement as long as those errors aren't systematically
pointing in the same direction. One of the quickest ways to
make people's judgements systematically biased is to make
them dependent on each other for information. Second,
independent individuals are more likely to have a new
information rather than the same old data everyone is
already familiar with. The smartest groups, then, are made
up of people with diverse perspectives who are able to stay
independent of each other. Independence doesn't imply
rationality or impartiality though. You can be biased and
irrational, but as long as you're independent, you won't
make the group any dumber.
addition to self-awareness, imagination and conscience, it is the
fourth human endowment--independent will--that really makes
effective self-management possible. It is the ability to make
and choices and to act in accordance with them. It is the ability to
act rather than to be acted upon, to proactively carry out the
program we have developed through the other three endowments.
Empowerment comes from learning how to use this great
endowment in the decisions we make every day.
Stephen R. Covey
gifts you can give your children are the roots
of responsibility and the wings of independence.
Don't be satisfied with stories, how things
have gone with others. Unfold your own myth.
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|It is easier to
live through someone else than to complete yourself.
The freedom to lead and plan your own life is frightening if you
never faced it before. It is frightening when a woman finally
that there is no answer to the question "who am I"
except the voice inside herself.
is that relation between man and woman in which
is equal, the dependence mutual,
and the obligation reciprocal.
Louis K. Anspacher
money is your hope for independence you will never have it.
The only real security that a man will have in this world is a
reserve of knowledge, experience, and ability.
|Independence is loyalty to one's
best self and principles,
and this is often disloyalty to the general idols and fetishes.
To be nobody
yourself in a world
which is doing its best
day and night to make you like
everybody else means
to fight the hardest battle
which any human being
can fight and never stop fighting.
It's easy to be
independent when you've got money. But to be
independent when you haven't got a thing--that's the Lord's test.